Rules, rules, rules. Everyone’s got a set they want to hand out and the internet is chock full of sites where people tell other people what to do. I wanted to fight this, instead I’ve decided to make my own absolute definitive guide to being a gentleman. The only problem with this is that it might be too much good advice. I’d like to thank here, here and here for inspiration. So, without further a (gentlemanly) due, here’s my list:
01. One must always walk in a straight line. Zig zagging across the street is undignified.
02. Always ask a girl out first – even when she asks you out first.
03. Learn how to cross the road. It may seem silly now, but it’s a vital life skill. Trust us.
04. Travel to a third world country. When you see the smiles they have on their little deprived faces, you’ll see how much you have. Which you’ll promptly forget when you’re back home and start complaining about the battery life on your iPhone.
05. Don’t play the bongos if you’re on a date.
06. Offer your seat to a woman whenever you’re on public transport. And if she refuses and say’s she’s fine, yell “sit down woman, I’m being a gentleman!” She’ll thank you for your gentlemanly forthrightness.
07. Write letters. On paper. With a quill.
08. The heart is strongest muscle in the body. Use it. To pump blood around your body. Any other use is ungentlemanly.
09. Recite fifteen romantic poems whenever you’re on a date. If your date tells you to stop, carry on unabashed. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do.
10. Don’t forgot birthdays and important events. Some people find it rude when you forget their birthday (surprisingly). Thankfully, there’s now an internet guide to tell you that these things are important.
11. Take all of these loosely related obvious common courtesies and opinions for fact. Otherwise you’re not a gentleman.”
Dedicated to all my male friends. Especially the one who cannot comprehend how opening doors for a lady makes you a better man. “FOR WHAT YOU NO ARMS TO OPEN THE DOOR YOURSELF MEH”.
Swagger 360’s List of 36 THINGS EVERY MAN SHOULD DO.
1. Travel to Paris, and New York.
These cities have a certain mystique about them… it’s well deserved. Plan to visit one (preferably both) and be sure to experience what makes those cities unique. Side note – Real gentlemen don’t do tour buses.
2. Master the omelet.
This is one of those things every man should learn. know how to create an omelet and know how to find those hidden and forgotten items in your refrigerator. Nothing goes better with that good morning kiss than that good morning breakfast.
3. Travel to a third world country.
Nothing will ground and humble you more than this experience. walk down a third world street and take a moment to reflect on what’s important in your life.
4. Get a manicure.
A real manicure and afterwards, might as well cater to your shoes – get an old fashioned shoe shine outside while people watching.
5. Throw a real party.
I mean prepare every detail. from rolling the sliced turkey, to mixing the olives, to slicing the french bread, to lighting the candles. Select the right music,, chill the white and let breathe the red wine. Throw a white table cloth on the table and invite the big boys.
6. Write a love letter.
A high school note doesn’t count. Take time to write a real love letter to someone deservant. No e-mail, no text, a hand written love letter that speaks from the soul. (keep a copy for yourself, you’ll be glad that you did in the future)
7. Establish a reputation
A gentleman, a scoundrel, a dandy, a lazy bum. People will perceive you a certain way and there is power in perception. Hopefully you’ll choose to present yourself in a favorable way.
8. Give something away just because.
One day when someone tells you they like something you have, just give it to them as a gift. it may be a book you’re reading, your watch, your pen, the point is to simply give away something simply because the person complimented you on it or because they noticed it.
9. Fast for 3 days.
Not a juice fast where you fill your belly with sweet stuff, go 3 days only consuming water. Take time to reflect on yourself, your life, and literally let the inner you relax.
10. Give up something you enjoy.
Practice self control and decide to simply give up something you enjoy. be it soda, a certain type of meat, candy, a tv show. The point is to practice self control, you’ll be fine… even a bit stronger.
11. Buy an Antique.
Take a day and search through an antique shop. Find a piece that you enjoy and add it to your home. Find a piece that adds character to your home and you’ll find it may become one of your favorite things at home.
12. Repair a piece of furniture.
Now I don’t mean go build you an elaborate cabinet with hidden compartments, or putting together an piece from Ikea. Take the time to strip down a table, buff it, refinish it. No need to make it a habit, but at least experience it once.
13. Play chess.
If you don’t know how, learn… if you already know how, play it more often. Chess is for the big boys, gentlemen don’t play checkers.
14. Have a suit tailor made.
Pick out the material, discuss the process with your tailor, enjoy he measuring process. While everyone can’t afford a bespoke suit, this is one of life’s guilty pleasures you should make a point of experiencing.
15. Give away a keep sake.
Find an item, hold on to it for a while (maybe a coin, a token, a lucky pebble, a money clip) then give it to a friend after you’ve had it for a while.
16. Write a book.
Now everyone may not be able to do this, but everyone should at least try. Take time to document something worth documenting.
17. Have a hobby.
Every gentleman should have at least 1 hobby. be it card collecting, stamp collecting, pens, or watches. Nothing gives you as much peace of mind as sitting home relaxing looking over what you’ve taken time to gather.
18. Spend a quiet evening ALONE.
Cheese, wine and candlelight or a cold beer and pizza – learn to enjoy your own company.
19. Vacation alone.
This one needs no explanation… ALONE.
20. Have a wall full of photos.
Select a section on your wall and frame photos of close friends, family and loved ones in general. A picture paints a thousand words… a wall full of photos speaks volumes of love.
21. Stay up all night working.
I’m not talking about working the graveyard shift. Spend all night working on something you enjoy, something you’re passionate about. Then, look out the window at daybreak before you go to bed.
22. Bid at an auction.
Don’t just bid, WIN. it may be an item you may not cherish forever, the point is the thrill of the win.
23. Strike up a conversation with someone you’re not attracted to.
Take the time to strike up a conversation with a woman on the merits of simply making her smile. Not because you think she’s beautiful, but simply because making a stranger smile is a beautiful thing.
24. Celebrate your birthday.
Celebrate your birthday by giving something back to the world. It has allowed you to see another year, why not give back… write a book, a poem, make it about what you give, not what you get.
25. Buy a painting.
No litho, no generic painting, save up some money and buy an original.
26. Prepare a picnic.
Plan it, surprise her, and enjoy it.
27. Custom make a piece of jewelry.
Although you may think it may be too expensive, you’d be surprised. Design a piece and bring it to a jeweler. It’ll have a special meaning and will be one of a kind … like you.
28. Write yourself a note.
Write about the temperature, how you feel that day, your thoughts on love, life and in general. Date it and tuck it away Come back to it a few years later (if you remember where you hid it) and reread it.
29. Dance the Waltz.
At least (try it) once. You’ll be surprised…. and the electric slide!
30. Write a thank you note.
Write a note to a close friend, a family member simply because. Let them know what role they played in your life.
31. A Kodak moment.
Capture a special event on film. Time surely flies, but memories have a way of lingering when captured.
32. Buy an Item with the intention of giving it away.
Save it for someone much younger and give it to them when they can appreciate it.
33. Volunteer for a good cause.
Invest one day in something you always wanted to support. giving back is golden.
34. Buy an elderly person lunch.
One day while you’re buying yourself lunch, just turn around and offer… no, insist on paying for the elderly person’s lunch behind you.
35. See an opera, and/or play.
Dress the part.
36. Live with Swagger.